January 21, 2015
The simple act of making my 2015 list, a list of things to do and places to see, was all I needed to see the spaces where I’d lost sight of myself over the last year. What became so glaringly obvious was the absence of time spent with some of my dearest friends. The frequent phone calls I’d let slide, the dinner dates I had to cancel, the day trips I didn’t have time to go on. So preoccupied with all of the “busy” I’d signed myself up for, I neglected to realize the cumulative effect it had over the year. I thought pursuing so many of my interests at one time would make me happier; what I didn’t realize was that I was mistaking “busy”-ness for happiness. By no means was I unhappy last year, there was just more time spent alone and less time shared with loved ones. I, for one, am a a big proponent of the idea that happiness is better shared.
So in the spirit of spending more time with friends, I took a drive this weekend to visit a dear friend for her birthday. For a friend who now lives a state away, making the hour drive seem like a breeze if it meant I got to hug her and spend the afternoon in her company. I brought along these treats (despite the sad reality of not knowing whether or not she was still vegan) to share as we’d done many times in college. We caught up, taking turns recounting life as we now know it, took the pups for a long walk and shared laughs with friends over lunch. It’s days like these that I’ll forever remember as happy times; not the certificates hiding in the back of my closet. So 2015 will be a year of capturing moments and relishing in happy times. Of balancing out my desire to always do more with the new found love of doing less.
A huge thank you to Walter Bromwell for creating the above video with me. I cherish every moment we spend together.